Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Only in an environment of grace can any kind of real change happen. For starters, grace strips us of self-importance. It does so by softening your spirit and softening your approach to others.
Remain pliable, teachable, and soft-hearted towards God and towards each other. The psychologist Dr. John Gottmann says that if you want to mend a relationship (or preserve a healthy relationship) an essential ingredient is an openness to be influenced by the other. You can’t cling to stubbornness and live in peace with another simultaneously, because over-self-confidence undermines relationship. (And life in the kingdom of God consists of living in peace with one another.) To cut off constructive suggestions from another is to impede the experience of the eternal kind of life now.